These websites enable the self-segregation of the H community in a way that I believe contributes to our invisibility and inertia. Ellie's not alone in her assessment of STI dating sites as a barren, depressing wasteland. Im like 8 years positive and i wonder about the sites, never touched them, but wondered because screw the talk…. Post was not sent - check your email addresses! Once I got over that hurdle, then I was ready to begin dating. HSV-1 and HSV-2 are both highly contagious, and even if a sufferer is not experiencing an outbreak, the virus is still present in their body. STI dating services are almost always unethical money-grabs that prey on what seems like a potentially underserved niche market.
At 47, the pool is very shallow, and even though I consider myself a handsome man for this age, I can see this being a big barrier.
What it’s really like to date with herpes
The talk is the scary but everyone knowing and becoming even more secluded is scarier. Oh, and once you have it, you have it for life. Which leads me to my next concern: Not surprisingly, education, honesty, and openness. As a result, these sites merely serve to segregate people who have herpes from people who don't or don't admit itfurther cementing the erroneous idea that a common viral infection somehow makes a person permanently unfuckable—when, in fact, a combination of medication, condoms, and avoiding sex during outbreaks can make sex with herpes fairly safe certainly much safer than sex with someone who blithely assumes they're STI-free.